Wild Horses

I had an intense weekend, I can’t tell a lie.  It peaked last night, and I stayed awake all night, my mind full of many different thoughts and emotions.  This morning, strangely, I feel pretty alert, and feel more clarity than I did all weekend.

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I was confused, and thinking about relationships.  During the night, I started to understand some key things again about relationships.  The first is trust.

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I know it’s a cliche to say that all good relationships are built on trust, but that isn’t what I mean just now.  When I say trust, I mean that trusting if it will be, it will be.  Trusting that the world has a way.

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The second is control.  If you try and control somebody, the relationship is destined to fail.  You have to let your partner become what she needs to be.  If you really love somebody, you can only support and help her in self discovery.

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And last night, I was thinking about my favorite poem by Theodore Roethke (undoubtably elsewhere on these pages), that great villanelle.  It’s a real gem:

THE WAKING

I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what i cannot fear.
I learn by going where I have to go.

We think by feeling.  What is there know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep and take my waking slow.

Of those close beside, which are you?
God bless the Ground!  I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.

Light takes the Tree; but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.

Great Nature has nothing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And lovely, learn by going where to go.

This shaking keeps me steady.  I should know.
What falls away is always.  And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.

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Real love is helping her discover freedom.  We think by feeling.  What is there to know?  And there is that one line that describes my night so well, This shaking keeps me steady.  I should know.

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